In Sickness and In Health

There are a number of reasons I decided to start a blog. I've always enjoyed writing, I really wanted to share some of my thoughts with the people I care about, which are many. I wanted a opportunity to share some of the joys and not-so-joys in my life. Not in the bragging or complaining sort of way but more in a hope that what I say can make a difference to someone. But... there is no possible way I can reach out to each and every one of them. Hence a blog.
So please Enjoy!

Nick and I celebrated our 6 month anniversary this Sunday January 26th. The day before we celebrated by taking the train to oceanside, ate at a marginal restaurant and played Jenga (I won...I can say that because this is my blog if he thinks he won he can write his own blog). It was so peaceful and relaxing to just ride the train, play some Jenga, and eat some healthy, but not 5 star food. But before I delve into that I will give you somewhat of a preface.

I am the last of all my siblings, almost all my cousins, and pretty sure the last of many friends from college to get married. I heard a lot of things scary and great about getting married. I watched a lot of people around me suffer in marriage. Marriage seemed like such an unpredictable volatile thing. Unpredictable, as in anybody can get divorced at any second because of anything. I'm happy to say I do not believe that anymore. Here's why.

Being married was an adjustment for me as it probably is for most. Even after we were married I worried about every miniscule detail. What if we stop loving each other? what if every meal I make stinks?, what if we can't pay rent next year?, what if, what if, what if??? Poor Nick, Right?! Well it just so happens that the only "what if...?" I didn't think about happened! Nick got really sick, had to go to the ER and was hospitalized for 3 days. Maybe that's normal for some people but for healthy active 25 and 26 year old newlyweds that was the last thing in my bucket of worries. It was a nightmare to say the least.

Many wonderful things have come from this but I'll share just a few of the initial miracles that we saw.

1. We were at his parents when it started such a blessing to have their support. I have no idea what I would have done on my own.
2. His Dad had a doctors appointment scheduled 8am the next morning that Nick was able to take which led us to take him to the ER
3. One of Nick's best friends was working in the ER when Nick was admitted and was scheduled to work the whole night. This was not a regular shift for him.
4. To our knowledge Nick didn't have insurance. He had signed up for it but didn't receive confirmation. After some research we found out he had been approved the day before he was admitted to the ER and it will be covered.
5. Nurse Beth let me sleep on the hospital bed next to him the first night there. Apparently if you do that they charge you. What an angel. All you nurses out there don't judge...I was a very very scared little wife.
6. Even with missing a week and a half of work somehow things worked out with different projects at work and it was as though nothing happened.

Let me tell you God has a very detailed plan! Those things must have taken months to orchestrate so that Nick and I would be in the right place and know that we are not alone in something very difficult for both of us. That night as I slept in the hospital bed next to my newlywed husband who was in so much pain for which I could do nothing, I learned a lot about faith.

I heard a lot about compatability, chemistry, likes/dislikes-which are all good and important but for me it's faith. Faith in God. If he can navigate people through seas (children of israel, Bible, read it) he can navigate me through a marriage safely. Faith in yourself: that you can really do it and you can, because if I can, you can. Then Finally, Faith in just one other person-your spouse, you just gotta find one person...easy right? Maybe not completely but its a whole lot easier to remember Faith than your compatibility score, Color Code colors, and 5 love languages. [I have done/read all of those and I highly recommend them but I think faith works quicker and better. I think they would all agree and if they don't, hey it's a free country!]

Please feel free to comment or share your thoughts. I'd love to hear some feedback on other peoples experiences or lack thereof. Until next time...